Claudia Chan

Some adult children are getting frustrated that their parents are giving them the cold shoulders and would not speak to them for weeks on end. 

Here’s how to deal with it. 

1 recognize that this is a manipulation tactic 

That they want you to change to cater to them. 

2 give your nervous system the safety it needs 

You don’t need to change yourself to calm them down so you calm down. 

To calm yourself: do the 4-7-8 breathing 

Breathe in slowly through nose count of 4 

Hold for 7 count 

Breathe out through nose count of 8 

Do this for 3-5 minutes. 

Once you’re ready, you can confront them to say, “hey, I know you’re upset because you care about this. And whenever you’re ready, let’s have an adult chat about it.” 

If they don’t want to, then at least you tried. 

Their emotions is not yours to take care of. 

Deal with your emotion, calm yourself down. This is how you take your power back. 

Special guest: my son. 

Whenever you are ready to do this work for you, book a time with me. And let’s do this together. 

I know this can be scary, so if you need, I can be your shoulder to cry on, I can give you tools, and we can figure out what your next step is. 

You’re not alone. Sending you lots of love.