Claudia Chan

I’m no stranger to comparing myself with others, I’d to deal with that since I was a teenager. And since working on it for the past 6-7 years, with being the age of 45, I’m at a place where this inner critic is less harsh on me. 

To give you a better understanding of how it feels like. It’s as if a monster leaps out from inside my chest, and it would drag me down this deep hole where I couldn’t get out for days. 

And many times, when other people achieved something, I just couldn’t get myself to celebrate them or be happy for them. 

So here are 5 things I worked a lot on. 

1 process my disappointment. To be able to sit with the part of me that constantly wish I’m “over there”. No matter how much I worked, it’s still not enough.

2 learning to deal with the pain and hurt from my parents’ interactions with me 

3 found people who were genuinely happy for me and are proud of my achievements

4 be able to fully receive those compliments given to me by said people 

5 I had to celebrate my efforts (not the result). 

Want to get out of the comparison loop too? Here are two exercises I would highly recommend.

Learn to acknowledge your feelings and process them, esp the disappointment in yourself 

Practice celebrating your efforts daily. 

I hope this video helps you. 

Sending you lots of love.