Claudia Chan

Sometimes we believe that our emotions is based on what other people do to us. 

Oh  because they keep saying I’m a bad daughter, I’m selfish. Because they keep yelling, or they keep giving us the cold shoulder, so I feel guilty, I feel bad. So I have to change myself to make things better. And I feel so powerless. 

So we need to build our own emotional independence. 

When other people are having their storm, and causing us to feel a certain way, we can do the following three steps.

1 take a moment to notice, “Hey I’m feeling guilty, or upset”

2 Then we can process the feeling. Calm ourselves down.

3 Then we can ask ourselves, “what is the best thing I can do that is most aligned to me?” 

Once you can calm yourself down, without needing other people to change, this is how you take back your control. Thus gain emotional independence. 

Which is extremely powerful, because they can try to rattle you, but you can always come back to yourself and what you stand for. 

So whenever you’re ready, book a time with me, and let’s build your resilience to take care of any emotions that come your way.