Claudia Chan

I’m going to speak in terms of you being the one whose parents disapprove of, and the one when your partner’s parents disapprove of you.

If your parents disapprove of your partner:

You have to go back into your heart to ask yourself, what is it that I know, and what is it that I want.

Because you want to be certain about this is the person you want to be with, cause if not, then why bother going through the storm?

And at the same time, are you clear in terms of who your partner really is? Because sometimes we may fight against our parents so much that we want to prove ourselves, and we may end up missing red flags.

So it all goes back to your certainty, are you able to have an open discussion/ communication with your partner so you are ONE unit.

If you’re the one your partner’s parents disapprove of.

Then your partner in this instance has to be the one to make that final decision.

And I see this a lot if this partner is a guy, because when it comes to the Asian culture, the boy is the one with “more expectations”, so if they’re not strong enough to say, “I want to be with you”, then they can be easily swayed by their parents.

You then in this instance, also have to look out for yourself, because if your partner doesn’t have the capacity to stand up for you, protect you from his parents, then you have to decide whether you want to stay or not.

When I work with my clients, I always make sure they take away three things: 1 certainty in themselves, 2 tools to calm themselves down 3 ways to navigate through the difficult conversations.

That’s because we don’t know what may happen, maybe the parents may abandon them, maybe the partner may end up leaving, so I need them to know that they have what it takes to handle different scenarios that get thrown at them.

If you have any questions, you can always send them to me.

And whenever you’re ready to do this for yourself, book a time with me.