Claudia Chan

Professional Certified Life Coach
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Loving the ugliness

February 5, 2024

This past Sat, I had a session with my client. And it was the perfect message that I also needed for myself.

If you’d never been to a coaching session before, coaching is not me giving you advice.

I personally believe that my clients already know the answer, and they already have the internal wisdom.

My job includes witnessing of their thoughts and feelings, sit with them through the dark spots, and holding up a light to shine on the future path.

And sometimes, what happens is when I shine that light onto their path, I also shine light onto my own.

On Sat, my client (hey there, if you’re reading) really wanted to put more time into honing her drawing and painting skills, but she was having trouble with starting her practice because she was concerned that she’d “spoil the paper”.

So I said to her, when your daughter did something that disappoint you, do you love her less? When your son got mad at you, do you love him less? She said no.

I said, these creations are your babies, (for now anyway, because later on, in order to showcase our work, we have to let go of that belief, or else we will be too protective of our work, and wouldn’t be able to showcase them), if the colour isn’t right, are you going to love it less? if there is a stroke that wasn’t meant to be there, are you going to love it less?

And as I was sharing this with her, my heart broke, because once again, I saw how harshly I treat myself.

I came down hard on myself when I struggle to learn a new skill.

I told myself all sorts of nasty things for needing time to flush out what I wanted to say.

And it is all ok.

Nothing has gone wrong.

I’m on my journey to loving myself.

And I am one step further along to realize this for me, so I can attempt to love myself again.

Coaching is not a one and done deal, it is an ongoing process, because I’m always evolving, breaking through to the next version of me.

It’s a loving paradox, loving myself where I am, and being excited for evolving into the next version of me.

If you’re interested in going on this journey, I invite you to book a free 20-min session with me, so that we can see where you’re at, where you want to go, and see if we’re a great fit to work with each other.

I want to let you know I love you, I see you, and if you need any support, I’m right here walking with you, you’re never alone on this journey.

Claudia Chan

Professional Certified Life Coach


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