Claudia Chan

Professional Certified Life Coach
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Pressure from mom? Or from yourself? 

August 26, 2025

I recently came across a few posts, saying that they feel overwhelmed, frustrated that their moms were pressuring to find a job. 

Today, my question for you, is it really your mom? Or is there something inside of you holding you back?  

While growing up, I always thought that, “if only my mom was more supportive of me”. 

I quit one of the MLMs, and then there were so many times my mom would say things, “You’re not articulate enough..”

So when I got married, I thought, now I have more time and opportunities! 

I started off with colouring journals, then calligraphy and engraving. 

But each time I lost interest and jumped. 

It was through my own inner work, that I realized.. it’s because I was scared to show up. 

Afraid to be judged, didn’t want to seem like I don’t know what I’m doing, so I held myself back from saying, “hey, look at me! This is what I offer, work with me!”

In one of my previous videos, I talked about fear is 2 steps away. 

It’s not going to say, hey, don’t show up because you’re not enough. 

It’ll say, oh, look at your mom going on and on pressuring you, so let’s use her as an excuse (not saying your mom is not annoying). 

Or oh look at this job, you don’t have the appropriate qualifications. 

The reasons are always two steps away. 

So how we go about figuring out what exactly we’re scared of, we have to cut out our parents actions.

If my mom is not pressuring me. What am I saying about myself? 

Give ourselves time to sit and discover that for ourselves. 

Then we can calm ourselves down and figure out what are some actions we can take. 

I hope you give yourself a chance to figure that out. 

If you have questions after watching this, ask me, so I can explain some more. 

Ready to do this work? Book a time with me. 

Pressure from mom? Or from yourself? 

Claudia Chan

Professional Certified Life Coach

TORONTO, ONTARIO CANADA

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