Claudia Chan

Recently, I see so many of these stories:

My parents are against me dating my other half.

My parents keep saying that I’m selfish for not taking care of my siblings.

My parents are forcing me to give up on going on this trip.

My parents are dictating that I can only marry someone from within the culture.

My parents are yelling at me non stop for wanting to move away.

My parents are ignoring me, and they’d stopped talking to me because I am wearing something they don’t like.

My parents said they’re not going to show up to my wedding if I don’t invite the people they want to invite.

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F-you parents.

I want to scream! What the heck is wrong with you???

And yet, I understand how much pain everyone is carrying.

All those times the parents never got a chance to choose what they wanted.

All those times they got hurt, either physically, emotionally, psychologically when they exercised their rights.

All those times they were shamed and pushed away for forging their own paths.

All those times they were forced to sacrifice and give up their dreams for someone else.

All those times when their dreams got crushed by someone else.

All those times when they were forced to follow in the footsteps of society.

All those times when they were angry and resentful at others, and themselves, because they decided to give up on themselves and followed someone else’s suggestions.

All those times when their own freedom were taken away by someone else.
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It is a lot of pain.

I am now working with this one coach to help me let go of the negative emotions from my past experiences.

And one of the events I worked on was when I was born, my grandma (dad’s mom) gave my boy cousin, who was born 3 months before me, a gold chain, while she said that my penis fell off, and gave me a $10 red pocket.

I had a lot of questions for her, I allowed myself to share what was on my mind.

And afterwards, I was asked to listen to what she has to say. One of the things I heard was that she didn’t know better. She said that she was not educated, and she couldn’t “see” the truth about what society has done to her. She said she was sorry for all the pain it has caused her daughters and granddaughters. And she said that she’s so proud of me, for standing up for our family and our lineage.

I know full well we cannot change others. All this time, other people want to change us, and we don’t want that, we don’t like that.

And if we don’t want them to change us, then we cannot change them. So we have to take our own lives into our own hands.

Now, it is the time.

Because it’s so frustrating to feel stuck.

Because it is taking so much of our emotional and mental capacity.

Because it’s so tiring and it feels so lonely to be fighting this fight on our own.

And I am here to help those who want to stand for themselves, and walk through this chaos.

So you can live a life where you can say what you want, do what you want, even when other people hate you, criticize you, take you down, walk away from you.

So hop on a free 20-min consult with me now, because there is only one you, and you are here to live as you, not as someone else’s version of you.