Claudia Chan

I went to watch Deadpool and Wolverine yesterday with Anthony, my husband, yesterday.

If you don’t want to get any spoilers, I will do a quick summary of what I’m going to talk about here:

Sometimes, we may get upset or bogged down by our past experiences. We may think, if only my parents treated me this way. Or if only I was allowed to do this, life would be better.

But what’s most important is, those are the experiences that make up who we are, and get better to choose what to do next.

Because those past experiences are the very thing that make us see, this is why we need to do something different in our lives. So that we can rise above.

I would like to invite you to see that maybe those painful experiences happened because that is your obstacle for you to outcome yourself.

Maybe you’re ready to see more of this for you, or maybe you’re ready to change, and when you are, hop on a free 20-min consult with me, and we can move you along to where you want to go.

On this note, I’m going to share about the Deadpool & Wolverine movie, so if you would like to skip the spoilers, then I’d recommend you stop reading from here.

Oh btw, I don’t know about you, but I thought it was really funny when I first learned that Anthony hates spoilers.

I actually had no concept of what a spoiler is, because while growing up, my mom would always tell me what happened in the TV drama we watched together (cause sometimes I had to miss it), and I didn’t care too much for it.

So Anthony got so upset when I shared a spoiler with him, and he was like NOOOOOO! And I was like, what??

🤣🤣🤣

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I’m not going to share too much about the story of Deadpool & Wolverine with you.

But there was this one point where it really spoke to my heart.

The premise is, once again, there are many universes.

And Deadpool went to the various universes to bring back one Wolverine to help him save Deadpool’s universe from being destroyed.

But the Wolverine that Deadpool found was the “worst” version of all wolverines.

In Wolverine’s universe, Wolverine was unwilling to stand up and fight, he’d rather choose to go out and drink. One night while he went off drinking, the humans hunted down all the mutants and killed them. So he was filled with guilt and pain.

Deadpool made a promise, if Wolverine helps him, then after they saved Deadpool’s world, they can go back to Wolverine past to change the outcome.

Throughout the movie Wolverine had no interest or intention to help Deadpool, because he believed that “he’s the wrong guy.”

But he kept showing up and kept deciding to fight, over and over again.

Then at the end, after Deadpool and Wolverine killed the villain, Deadpool talked to the head chief of the Timeline (the organization that watches over the Timeline).

Deadpool asked if they could do something about Wolverine’s timeline.

And she said that (and I’m paraphrasing), it is because of his past that led him to where he is now. So nothing needs to be changed.

That!

Ohhhhhh!!

That is the one lesson I’d been learning.

And that is what I’m trying to get people to see.

So many times, I’d hold myself back from showing up.

I am too scared! If only my parents had supported me to “cultivate” my courage.

Or

When I see other people way ahead of me, I sometimes blame my parents.

If only they’d allowed me to do this, then I wouldn’t have wasted all this time and I could be further along!

If only I was able to do this, then…

If only other people had done that, then…

If only things are different in the past, then…

And I’d been learning to get out of this headspace of, if things were only different, then our lives would be better. (And I’m still doing it everyday! Because it is so easy to go back into)

But Wolverine needed to have all his mutant friends killed for Deadpool to find him, so he can go on this journey.

Sure, yes that is a movie.

And this is also life.

We needed to have those experiences in our past, in order to realize that we want something better.

Like I had to have my mom kept hitting me during my Gr 4 & 5 year, so that I learn what it means to show up while “scared of doing things ‘wrong’”.

Being scared and doing it anyway.

I needed to have my mom not support me being with my husband, so that I can stand for my own dreams and values.

And even more. Standing up for me, learning this for me, so I can help others stand for themselves.

All of those experiences made up who I am,

And I get to choose a different outcome every single minute, every single hour, every single day.

I mean if we could rewind time, I might have chosen to leave Anthony then, but I know for a fact that my journey is to stand for me. Not following my mom’s voice overpower me.

What it means is, I know I will come across another situation where I will head butt against my mom again. If not this issue, it’ll be another issue, because it’s always been this lesson all along.

To learn to stand and speak for me.

For some of us, it may be to love ourselves. So we may continue to encounter people who don’t love us, or who may continue to take advantage of us.

For others, it may be to take care of our bodies. So we may encounter situations where we found ourselves give and give until our bodies breaks down.

Have you ever been in a situation where you’re like, how is it I’m back “here” again?

May it be feeling like no one loves you, or gaining weight again, or mad at others for not respecting you.

Have you ever felt like, I’m sick and tired of dealing with this sh*t again!

Yeah..

Me.

I want you to know that there is a deeper message in your life, and it wants you to see and overcome.

Maybe you already know what the message is already, and you don’t know how to get over it.

Maybe you still don’t know and want to find out.

I am here for you.

Book a free 20-min consult call with me, and we can figure out what it is your life purpose is, and what you want to work on.

Because you are meant to overcome your past to live as who you’re meant to be.