YOU ARE MEANT FOR MORE
Cultivate the CURIOSITY to KNOW YOURSELF
the COMPASSION to LOVE YOURSELF
the COURAGE to BE YOURSELF
Take the First Step!You’re a smart lady. You studied hard, and you have a good job. You’re hardworking, and you’ve gotten this far.
And despite all that, you still find yourself having trouble speaking up, promoting yourself at work, or you're finding your mom having a lot of control over you. Somehow stopping you.
You feel guilty for making decisions that will making your parents feel hurt and disappointed.
You feel scared of your friends walking out on you yet deep down you really want to say no.
- You feel the unfairness and pain when other people criticize or shame you for your differing point of view.
- You struggle with presenting your ideas, wondering if they're good enough, and when you hold back, you criticize yourself for not speaking up.
- You’re a mom and have kids, and your mom is still giving you her two cents, telling you exactly how she’d raise them differently.
- You’re dating someone of a different racial background or a different gender, whom your mom doesn't approve of, and she’s forcing you to break up with them.
- You’re taking care of your mom, and even though you’re doing everything you can, she is still complaining how you haven’t done enough.
If this is what you're going through now, I totally understand.
Get your Free 20-min Consult!“Because you weren’t psychologically independent from your father.”(or mother) - Ep 2 'Extraordinary Attorney Woo'
To become psychologically independent is a journey I’d been on for the past 20 years, and I am still on it.
The first time I started noticing it was when I started working. I found it very difficult to share my ideas, and I would remain silent during conflicts. My colleagues would say, “Why didn’t you say anything?” And I would feel so frustrated and disappointed in myself.
Then as I started dating, chaos ensued because of the differing perspectives between my parents and I. "Why do you have to date this person from a different background?". Confusion would set in, yet words eluded me, "Well, why can't I?"
Yet, I admired my will to stand for myself. Some days, I may waver, but I would question it, discuss it with others, and come up with an answer most suitable for me. Because I don’t like to follow things “just because”.
To become psychologically independent is a journey I’d been on for the past 20 years, and I am still on it.
The first time I started noticing it was when I started working. I found it very difficult to share my ideas, and I would remain silent during conflicts. My colleagues would say, “Why didn’t you say anything?” And I would feel so frustrated and disappointed in myself.
Then as I started dating, chaos ensued because of the differing perspectives between my parents and I. "Why do you have to date this person from a different background?". Confusion would set in, yet words eluded me, "Well, why can't I?"
Yet, I admired my will to stand for myself. Some days, I may waver, but I would question it, discuss it with others, and come up with an answer most suitable for me. Because I don’t like to follow things “just because”.
Coming across self-development/mindset work gave me the opportunity to question life, to self reflect, to understand interactions.
Because I finally understand that my inability to speak up at work, was because I was never given a chance to speak up at home, so I was scared of being yelled at by others. And I get to change that.
I finally see that my opinions get to be different from my parents’. Even if I don’t follow their wishes, it doesn’t mean I don’t love them. I choose how I want to live for me, and for my family.
I become aware of how my mind has been molded from my past experiences, it doesn't mean I'm stuck. I gained tools to re-program my brain and work through my fear and self-doubt.
To become psychologically independent from my parents is to allow me to expand in different areas of life. To see what I'm capable of, what I am about.
Now, the question is, "Are you ready to become psychologically independent from your parents?"
Because I finally understand that my inability to speak up at work, was because I was never given a chance to speak up at home, so I was scared of being yelled at by others. And I get to change that.
I finally see that my opinions get to be different from my parents’. Even if I don’t follow their wishes, it doesn’t mean I don’t love them. I choose how I want to live for me, and for my family.
I become aware of how my mind has been molded from my past experiences, it doesn't mean I'm stuck. I gained tools to re-program my brain and work through my fear and self-doubt.
To become psychologically independent from my parents is to allow me to expand in different areas of life. To see what I'm capable of, what I am about.
Now, the question is, "Are you ready to become psychologically independent from your parents?"
" After working with me as a Courage Coach, my clients allow themselves to explore who they are, and what they want. Even in the face of criticism and rejections, they become more courageous to live with purpose and joy.
Let’s do this together, because I believe in you.
You’re Meant for More. "
Let’s do this together, because I believe in you.
You’re Meant for More. "
- Claudia Chan
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