Claudia Chan

Professional Certified Life Coach
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Getting connected with others

May 10, 2024

So many times, I would want to join a group, and make connection with others, but the moment I joined, my body would be like, no… this is not for me…

And I know that it’s because I had a few thoughts.

1 I don’t belong here.

The feeling of I have to change myself to fit in.

It’s like one of the recent events I volunteered at. Throughout that time I just felt so uncomfortable, I felt as if I had to act a certain way in order to make a connection.

2 I’m not good enough.

And keep comparing myself to others

It’s like whenever I get into a group, a part of me would keep comparing myself to them, and my mind would hone in on all the things I haven’t done yet, or how I’m not good enough yet.

3 Unable to share my struggles

If I share what I’m struggling with, it equated to me feeling incompetent. Or worse, the belief that no one really cares about it, and I have to figure it out on my own anyway, so why bother sharing.

It makes it very hard to share things.

And yes, all of these stemmed from my experiences while growing up.

And they don’t help me grow my connections with others.

Often times, we may really want to have a group of people to support us, but we may stop ourselves short from connecting, because of our tendency to compare.

Other times, we may crave for that human connection, but we end up holding back because we somehow believe that other people don’t car

Has there been a point in your life where you are surrounded by a group of people, but you still felt alone?


For me, so many times.

And yet, I still kept trying, kept healing, kept putting myself out there, because I believe that building a community that I can belong to, will help me walk further.

So that’s why my friend Phoebe Maina and I are going to talk about the Power of Community.

How to connect and build that group of people in your life.

If you’re interested in it, then join us. Tonight!!

Tonight May 10th 9 pm EST/ Sat May 11th 9am Beijing Time

The link will be sent to you an hour before the event!
and if you know or someone who may benefit, here’s the link:

Claudia Chan

Professional Certified Life Coach


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