You'd been doing many things for others, and you can't seem to be able to say no to others!
1. You think it’s because it’s your obligation.
You feel that you are expected to do them because they're part of your "expectations."
But It’s really because you believe you only deserve to be loved if you do what they want. You've attached your worth to making sure other people are taken care of.
2. You think you’re being a good person when you do things for others.
You feel that you're only being a good person, because you don't want to be labelled as "defiant" or "uncoporative".
But it’s really because you’re afraid that other people will reject you if you say no. They're going to shun you, because you're not playing team.
What can you do?
The first step to getting out of this, is to fully understand that you are 100% loveable, AND you have to learn how to love yourself!
That way, you won’t need to depend on other people’s love.
When other people don't love you, no problem! Your worth is not attached to it, because you can love yourself!
You can take full responsibility for yourself, so when other people reject you, you will be able to stand tall.
You don't need them to approve of you, by setting the boundary for yourself, you respect yourself, and other people will respect you.
Would you be willing to do that for yourself?