Blog - Claudia Chan

A letter your teen cannot write to you

October 4, 2025

I found this post a while ago, and I was called to share it with my client today, so I thought I’d share it with you too. The Letter Your Teenager Can’t Write You by Gretchen L Schmelzer Know that the teenage years are going to be tough, there will be a lot of storm. […]

Teasing out our life lesson

October 3, 2025

One of my beliefs is that, when we are brought into this world, we have chosen a life lesson for ourselves. And we come across people in our lives that are meant to be the obstacles, so we can learn the lessons. For example, while growing up, I constantly want to be able to make […]

What is a “generational cycle breaker”?

October 2, 2025

Sometimes when our family lineage is experiencing some sort of pain, that gets passed from one generation to another. There will come one person, who is born into the family, to break the family free from this cycle. Now how do you know if you’re one. For example, you’re asked to support your family’s financial […]

When our parents don’t have the capacity.

October 1, 2025

Sometime, we may believe that our parents “should” love us, have the patience for us because they are our parents. And because they don’t… we somehow believe that it’s because we didn’t do enough, we are not worthy enough. But what if they actually don’t have the capacity for it? What if, when we stand […]

One most important thing from 10 years anniversary

September 26, 2025

The one most important thing I learned from being married for 10 years, together for 15, is the art of communication. The two parts are 1) how to connect so we can initiate a conversation, and 2) to validate the other person feelings, without feeling attacking or without taking it personally. And we have to […]

When other people keep crossing our boundaries (building emotional independence)

September 21, 2025

Sometimes we believe that our emotions is based on what other people do to us. Oh because they keep saying I’m a bad daughter, I’m selfish. Because they keep yelling, or they keep giving us the cold shoulder, so I feel guilty, I feel bad. So I have to change myself to make things better. And […]

Controversial topic: emotionally immature parents

September 19, 2025

Today I’m going to touch on some of the signs of emotionally immature parents. One of the meaning is, they treat you as an adult when it’s convenient for them, but treat you as a child when it doesn’t serve them. Some examples for treating you like an adult: they keep asking you to take […]

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