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When our parents don’t have the capacity.

October 1, 2025

Sometime, we may believe that our parents “should” love us, have the patience for us because they are our parents. And because they don’t… we somehow believe that it’s because we didn’t do enough, we are not worthy enough. But what if they actually don’t have the capacity for it? What if, when we stand […]

One most important thing from 10 years anniversary

September 26, 2025

The one most important thing I learned from being married for 10 years, together for 15, is the art of communication. The two parts are 1) how to connect so we can initiate a conversation, and 2) to validate the other person feelings, without feeling attacking or without taking it personally. And we have to […]

When other people keep crossing our boundaries (building emotional independence)

September 21, 2025

Sometimes we believe that our emotions is based on what other people do to us. Oh because they keep saying I’m a bad daughter, I’m selfish. Because they keep yelling, or they keep giving us the cold shoulder, so I feel guilty, I feel bad. So I have to change myself to make things better. And […]

Controversial topic: emotionally immature parents

September 19, 2025

Today I’m going to touch on some of the signs of emotionally immature parents. One of the meaning is, they treat you as an adult when it’s convenient for them, but treat you as a child when it doesn’t serve them. Some examples for treating you like an adult: they keep asking you to take […]

One important practice to self love

September 18, 2025

With more people knowing about self love through social media, people are getting frustrated because they’re like, I don’t really know how to love myself. Here’s something I want to share with you. Knowing about self love, is like knowing of a language. You know may of French (that’s if you don’t know French), but […]

“No” to parents treating you poorly

September 16, 2025

When we grow up, there may come a time when our decisions are going to conflict with our parents’. But a lot of times, our parents ended up saying a lot of horrible things, like, “You’re selfish!” “You’re a sl*t” (for those of us who end up with a bf) or even threatening that they’ll […]

Getting out of the comparison loop

September 15, 2025

I’m no stranger to comparing myself with others, I’d to deal with that since I was a teenager. And since working on it for the past 6-7 years, with being the age of 45, I’m at a place where this inner critic is less harsh on me. To give you a better understanding of how […]

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