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What is a “generational cycle breaker”?

October 2, 2025

Sometimes when our family lineage is experiencing some sort of pain, that gets passed from one generation to another. There will come one person, who is born into the family, to break the family free from this cycle. Now how do you know if you’re one. For example, you’re asked to support your family’s financial […]

When our parents don’t have the capacity.

October 1, 2025

Sometime, we may believe that our parents “should” love us, have the patience for us because they are our parents. And because they don’t… we somehow believe that it’s because we didn’t do enough, we are not worthy enough. But what if they actually don’t have the capacity for it? What if, when we stand […]

One most important thing from 10 years anniversary

September 26, 2025

The one most important thing I learned from being married for 10 years, together for 15, is the art of communication. The two parts are 1) how to connect so we can initiate a conversation, and 2) to validate the other person feelings, without feeling attacking or without taking it personally. And we have to […]

When other people keep crossing our boundaries (building emotional independence)

September 21, 2025

Sometimes we believe that our emotions is based on what other people do to us. Oh because they keep saying I’m a bad daughter, I’m selfish. Because they keep yelling, or they keep giving us the cold shoulder, so I feel guilty, I feel bad. So I have to change myself to make things better. And […]

Controversial topic: emotionally immature parents

September 19, 2025

Today I’m going to touch on some of the signs of emotionally immature parents. One of the meaning is, they treat you as an adult when it’s convenient for them, but treat you as a child when it doesn’t serve them. Some examples for treating you like an adult: they keep asking you to take […]

One important practice to self love

September 18, 2025

With more people knowing about self love through social media, people are getting frustrated because they’re like, I don’t really know how to love myself. Here’s something I want to share with you. Knowing about self love, is like knowing of a language. You know may of French (that’s if you don’t know French), but […]

“No” to parents treating you poorly

September 16, 2025

When we grow up, there may come a time when our decisions are going to conflict with our parents’. But a lot of times, our parents ended up saying a lot of horrible things, like, “You’re selfish!” “You’re a sl*t” (for those of us who end up with a bf) or even threatening that they’ll […]

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