Claudia Chan

Sometimes it can feel like time is just passing by, I mean, 2 months has already gone by in 2022!

Since today’s March 1st, I’d like to ask you something.

Is there anything you want to change in your life?

Maybe you want to have a better relationship with your family.

Maybe you want to be able to say no to others.

Maybe you want to have more fun in your life.

Maybe you want to eat healthier.

Whatever it is, you may be thinking, oh it’s so daunting or defeating...

I mean… you probably had set it as a goal before. You’d tried changing before, but it didn’t work.

So you gave up on it because you thought that it wasn’t for you, you thought you weren’t meant to do it.

And now thinking about it again, it made you sad. you may be beating yourself up for not having followed through.

Or maybe you started comparing yourself with other people.

Here's something I’d like to offer you, and this was something that really changed my life.

Whenever I felt overwhelmed or defeated thinking about the changes I want to make in my life.

Rather than going to the place of what didn’t work, or what I could have achieved.

I brought myself back to the present moment.

That’s because if I feel defeated, my thoughts are either in the past criticizing myself. Or they are the future doubting myself.

So I bring myself back to the present moment, and I say this to myself: I am just ONE thought away from a different life.

I only need to take one little step, what do I want to do now?

Right? Because I can’t jump from now to the future version of myself in one big leap.

But I can take a tiny tiny step toward my goal.

And that first step is just as small as changing the way I think about it.

I haven’t done anything yet, I just changed internally, on how I think about it.

If let’s say I want to have more connection with my kids, I can choose to think: I‘m going to pay a little bit more attention to my kids for the next 5 minutes.

So I deliberately put down my phone and I interact with my kids for the next 5 minutes.

Really pay attention to them, listen to what they’re saying, get curious about them, get to know who they are.

And after 5 minutes, Celebrate! I pat myself on the back and say, Look! You did it! Great job!

And now try to choose another thought.

And you keep doing it again and again: one thought at a time to change the trajectory of your life.

You’re always just one thought away, just one tiny step, from the life you want.