A while back, my coach Simone Seol shared her view on setting goals.
She said, What if your goal can be “weird, delightful, awesome”?
What goal would you set for yourself?
As I was thinking about it, I realized how much I was influenced by the patriarchal society.
We are raised to set goals based on the patriarchy societal expectations, like we measure our success based on how much money we make, what title we have, what business we have, where we live, what house we buy, etc
As I was thinking about mine, I realized how much my goals had been defined by these things. For me, I was thinking about how many times I would like to speak on stage, how many clients I’d like to have, how many podcasts I want to put up.
While there is nothing wrong with this, I was also thinking what exactly I want for myself for this coming year.
As my mind tried to explore what is fun, weird, exciting, delightful, awesome, I thought, what do I really want and treasure?
(Actually, when I first saw the Beat Saber game! I got so excited!! O M G!! I used to play these tap tap music games on my phone when I was younger! Can't wait to get my hands on this thing, I'm going to have so much fun!!! Seriously, being about to complete this difficult song would be one of my weird, delightful goals! LOL! !)
Other than that! One thing that came up for me was creating deeper 1:1 connections with others.
For some of you, making connection is easy!
But for someone like me who’s extremely introverted, it took me a lot of work to get to even where I am right now.
One of the reasons was because while growing up, I had to learn to protect myself a lot. So I would end up pushing people away before they had a chance to do anything.
I blocked them out, and in reality, I blocked myself in.
But despite all of this, deep down, I want to create more connections with others.
And it is because having “sisters” is something I’d always wanted.
These are people who are there for me no matter what, they are able to share my ups and downs, crack funny jokes, give me a good kick in the butt when I need it. They accept me the way I am.
I have a few people in my life I can call sisters, and it’s been amazing.
And I want to create more of these wonderful relationships for myself this year, and that would be delightful and fun for me.
So what about you? What goal would you like to create that would be weird, delightful, awesome for you?
What area of your life would you want to set a goal for? (Not just for your work, there are also other areas of your life.)
If you think of anything weird and delightful, I’d love to hear about it!
And if you’d like to create more connections too, I’d love to get to know you more! You can book a connecting session with me, where we just have fun and chat.
Looking forward to chatting with you!